For the blokes…
Make sure you give yourself enough time to get washed, dressed, play a round of golf, get showered and dressed again! Seriously if you have never worn a set of cufflinks or used a cravat than make sure you know what your doing -those things will take time to sort out!
The Wedding Car & Photographs
Make sure you know how long it takes to get to the wedding ceremony and add 10 minutes to the time. Things go wrong and being late is one thing, scaring the pants of your groom is another!
Once the wedding care arrives and your in your dress it’s time to do some photographs with Dad, Mum, Bridesmaids, the Car and You! Humour the photographer here if they ask you to do this, especially if there is only one photographer. They need to get to the ceremony BEFORE you so are likely to be in a bit of a hurry!
Both Bride and Groom need to arrive early to have a 1-1 interview with the registrar so plan that into the time frame. The 1-1 is to make sure all details are correct etc. It is also (though officially denied I would imagine!) to make sure that you are both sober, not under the influence of drugs and are doing this of your own free will. (If you have had a glass of champers – use some mints!)
The Arrival at the Ceremony
Yup, more photographs and time for last minute adjustments to the dress etc. Most if not all of the bridal party won’t have bags with them – so ask the photographer to carry the lippy and things in their bags. Just before you get some more photographs done apply the usual makeup touches to ensure you look fab!
Oh – don’t be toooo late. It really is a scary moment for the groom!
After the Ceremony…
More photographs! Working with a professional wedding photographer is really important (I would say that – I am one!) but this is where the really pro’s stand out. They can arrange your wedding photographs quickly, easily and with the minimum amount of fuss so that you can go from the big group shot to Bride & Groom in about 20-30 minutes. Any longer and people start to get bored and wander off.
Professionals are good at getting this organising done; but help them out. Give them a list of what group photographs you want. There is no such thing as a ‘standard’ set of wedding photographs anymore due to family breakups, divorces etc.
Some tips for the photographs…
You know that person you really didn’t want to invite but your mum instead on it? Well just grin and bear it for 5 seconds whilst a photo is taken – you don;t have to have it in the wedding album but helps keep the peace on your big day. Don’t stress it – your wedding photographer and you can discuss how to, erm, remove. the offending person if you really need to!
You may choose to have the photo’s done out side the church if that’s the location, or go to a local park etc. Chat all this over with the photographer before the big day.
More Intimate Photographs
No – not that intimate! These are just you and your new husband. It is also quite nice to get some time to yourselves after all the stress and hassle of getting to the ceremony and then the marriage etc. Photographers differ on the time they ask for here – myself I only want about 30 minutes max. A wedding is a family occasions so I want to make sure you enjoy the special time with your family and friends not with me!
Again some photographers will keep you an hour or so. Check when you book them what the process is.
Remember – they are YOUR photographs so if you feel uncomfortable or don’t want the photo’s etc say so. Don’t be bullied, some photographers like to use wedding photographs for competitions or to show off how good they are. If that detracts from your enjoyment say so.